Praise vs. Encouragement: Why It Matters More Than We Think?

We all want to build our children’s confidence—but how we do that can make a lasting difference.

Praise says, “You’re so smart!”

Encouragement says, “You worked really hard on that.”

In Positive Discipline and Montessori environments, we seek encouragement because it fosters intrinsic motivation. Praise often creates dependence on approval and children become approval junkies. Doing things to please those around them. While, encouragement invites children to reflect on their own efforts and progress.

Maria Montessori said:

“The child who concentrates is immensely happy.”

Encouragement helps children connect with their inner joy, instead of looking for external validation. It nurtures self-awareness and resilience.

Would you like to try something new?

Instead of “Good job!” try, “I noticed you didn’t give up even when it got tricky.” Watch the difference in the child’s eyes.

Encouragement sees the child as capable and growing, not in need of approval, but worthy of connection.