The Power of Curiosity Questions

When a child makes a mistake, it’s easy to jump in with instructions or explanations. But in Positive Discipline, one of the most potent ways to support growth is to ask questions instead of providing answers.

Curiosity Questions invite children to think, reflect, and take responsibility. They help build trust, not resistance.

Instead of saying:

• “Why would you do that?”

• “You need to fix this right now.”
One Can Try:

• “What happened?”

• “What ideas do you have for solving this?”

• “How could we handle this differently next time?

These questions aren’t about catching children off guard or making them feel guilty. They are invitations. They open a door to cooperation, creativity, and connection.

How It Aligns with Montessori?

Montessori educators often observe first and then step in when a child needs support. There’s trust in the child’s ability to solve problems and grow from experience. That’s the same spirit behind Curiosity Questions.

As Dr. Maria Montessori said:

“Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.”

When we ask instead of telling, we show children we believe in their ability to figure things out.

Why Does It Work?

Curiosity Questions:

• Build problem-solving skills

• Strengthen internal motivation

• Support mutual respect

• Avoid shame and power struggles

They also help adults stay calm and connected. A moment of curiosity can shift the whole tone of a conversation—from correction to connection.

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